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Posted 21 December 2011 - 11:35 PM

a guy that i was seeing gave me chlamydia... we both felt that he did not penetrate me but he jacked off close to me down there and then came/ejected real close to me down there... and he put it a little in my butt before then and next thing u know i get chlamydia in both areas... (eff my life). the problem is i was physically with another guy after him (this was BEFORE i found out otherwise i wouldve never touched anyone until i got myself treated forsure) and i think i may have given it to him too even though he didnt penetrate me but we did basically the same stuff that me and the first guy did...well after i found out i freaked out and texted him this:

me: hey :)
[he doesnt respond for a day]
me: i was wondering if you are free this week to meet.. i kind of have something important to talk to you about it affects both me and you
[he doesnt respond]
me: can u please get back to me about it when u can
me: something unexpected happened n i really need to speak with you
him: i get off at 5 ill text you then thats why i havent wrote back
[a few hours later]
him: whats up what do you have to tell me?
me: im still in the middle of something right now but i can talk to you tomorrow
him: f*k well to be honest im trying to fix things with my ex i dont want to risk what i have with her you know like if its something crazy just let me know right now so i wont be waiting

now im getting cold feet.... i told him i was a virgin and how the EFF is he going to believe me now... rumors are going to spread and i really dont know what to do at this point. if he does have it and i dont say anything eventually hes going to find out anyway and he'll know its me. on the other hand he may not even have it at all and then i wouldve just shot myself in the foot by doing all this. i have the medication for it (the doctor gave me extra for any partners i may have had) and im trying to figure out some smart or creative way to handle this situation...cause i dug myself in a hole... and now i truly need help and advice. help !


i dont even know if i should tell my best friend this... i feel like this is something i should never tell anyone except only for my brother and the one guy that gave it to me ... but now that i opened my big mouth with guy #2 i dont know what to do.... i hope he didnt give it to his exgf... cause then even if i made him take the medicine shes gunna give it right back to him... F*k i just dont know what to do without branding myself as the std girl for life, once the news is out there'll be no taking it back and all my claims of being a virgin will be completely unbelievable anymore now i feel dirty even though there was no penetration and just touching of the genitals/sperm

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Posted 21 December 2011 - 11:59 PM

just txt it to him since hed rather just know it straight away rather than meeting up

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Posted 22 December 2011 - 12:49 AM

Honestly, you should just tell him. Because there's a fifty fifty percents of him getting it from you and you are risking others' life by not being honest. Don't meet him, call him or text him. It is easier to tell him that way. Telling him at least you are honest to him now. If he found out himself, it will be worse bc it will appear to him that you are a coward. And if you don't want your image to be ruined, you should've be more careful about your sex life.

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Posted 22 December 2011 - 02:45 AM

Go see a doctor and get some anti-biotics to treat the Chlamydia infection.

Then call the guy and be upfront with him. He has the right to know if it concerns his health.

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Posted 22 December 2011 - 04:45 AM

He needs to know otherwise, for himself and with any other partners in the future. Not sure if guys notice it less than girls or not. He needs medical attention aswell.

You will be more concerned so protection will be very important to you.

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Posted 22 December 2011 - 04:56 AM

tell him....and prevent another life from being ruined by stupidity.

this isn't one of those little secrets you can shove under the rug and ignore.
this is something that can potentially lead to a domino effect and hurt someone else....

stop and think what if that was you being kept in the dark?
i would think you of all people would want to know if someone was going to give that sh*t to you.

stop being selfish.

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Posted 22 December 2011 - 05:19 AM

How do you know you got it from this guy in the first place?

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Posted 22 December 2011 - 07:42 AM

It is obviously easier for a guy to pass it on to a girl than the other way 'round.
But, to be a responsible person, you should stop these episodes of sexual adventure
and stick to getting into a relationship and then think about having sex
The more you venture about sexually, the more you expose yourself to STDs
It isn't just about telling your sexual partners
It is about changing your sexual lifestyle to be better to limit your exposure to STDs.

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Posted 22 December 2011 - 10:24 AM

read wht i have to say if u want to kno how i solved the C-issue from a guy perspective
a few yrs ago i went to asia for vacation n met a girl that i did it with , without the raincoat
i returned home n did it w/ 2 other girls without the raincoat (the two back home were friends/benefits and iknew them for sometime)
so I used the bathroom to pee'd one day and had a burning sensation,
i was freaking the eff-out, i went to the doctor and they said i had the C-issue,but nothing else............they gave me a packet of powder to mix with any type of drink and the c-issue would go away
i had another (girl) friend go 2 d doctor wit me to request more C-issue powder, then i told one of my two friends with bennie abt my exploration in asia,
she took the powder n no more symptoms, prior to me telling her, she told me her cootch was itchy after we did it,

the 2nd friend w/ bennies, i couldnt get myself to tel her, so i met up wit her at a cafe, and got her an almond tapioca drink, i mixed the c-issue powder in there.
she drank it and was cured and never complained abt c-issue, but she said she had a tummy ache from the tapioca drink, after this asia girl incident, i wear my raincoat ALLLLLL D TIME,
i was young n naive n wanted to feel good, it could of been worse like a serious SpamTofuDinner.

ur case is a lil diff. becuz ur feel-good partners have other partners, which could spread like wild fire, my friends/bennies at d time only did it w/ me
basically u need to tel someone! or treatevery 1 to a tapioca drink

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Posted 23 December 2011 - 05:21 AM

read wht i have to say if u want to kno how i solved the C-issue from a guy perspective
a few yrs ago i went to asia for vacation n met a girl that i did it with , without the raincoat
i returned home n did it w/ 2 other girls without the raincoat (the two back home were friends/benefits and iknew them for sometime)
so I used the bathroom to pee'd one day and had a burning sensation,
i was freaking the eff-out, i went to the doctor and they said i had the C-issue,but nothing else............they gave me a packet of powder to mix with any type of drink and the c-issue would go away
i had another (girl) friend go 2 d doctor wit me to request more C-issue powder, then i told one of my two friends with bennie abt my exploration in asia,
she took the powder n no more symptoms, prior to me telling her, she told me her cootch was itchy after we did it,

the 2nd friend w/ bennies, i couldnt get myself to tel her, so i met up wit her at a cafe, and got her an almond tapioca drink, i mixed the c-issue powder in there.
she drank it and was cured and never complained abt c-issue, but she said she had a tummy ache from the tapioca drink, after this asia girl incident, i wear my raincoat ALLLLLL D TIME,
i was young n naive n wanted to feel good, it could of been worse like a serious SpamTofuDinner.

ur case is a lil diff. becuz ur feel-good partners have other partners, which could spread like wild fire, my friends/bennies at d time only did it w/ me
basically u need to tel someone! or treatevery 1 to a tapioca drink

The symptoms of Chlamydia aren't burning while pissing ... that's Gonorrhea
Chlamydia has a bad smell .. or vaginal or penial discharge .. or no symptoms at all .. please check with your doctor
However, if it was Chlamydia then a single dose of azithromycin or a week of doxycycline (twice daily) are the most commonly used treatments
And, you should always tell your partners. It is irresponsible to dose her with drugs hoping that it will cure her.
She may have other problems and it may need a medical doctor's attention.
Chlamydia is curable and should be treated as soon as possible to minimize the damage that disease can do.


And, sometimes a single treatment isn't enough to cure the disease.

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Posted 04 January 2012 - 11:47 PM

ok guys so i did it... i grew some balls and hinted to him yesterday that i needed to talk to him in a way that kind of made it apparent that i needed to talk to him about an important issue surrounding health and he caught on that it might be stds and he blew up on me... the last two text he sent was:

"you know what just drop it then im fukken trippen n i rather not know i was fukken happy with my life now u go get me all worried dnt trip dnt tell me *rest of text messing due to bad reception*"

"to be honest its both those reasons but id rather not know and id appreciate it if we leave it at that if i ever get curious ill let u know but till then id rather never talk about this again n id be coo if u dont text me" next text: "just cus i wouldnt want my gf to see one of ur messages"

.....i didnt even know before that he would get back with his ex gf and stop talking to me right after :( no wonder he disappeared. he used to complain to me about her all the time and say that he knew they were done and he would just call her his roommate and told me he kicked her out. guess thats not the case anymore...

anyway, i cant control other peoples reactions, but i can only keep in control of myself. so i was thinking about sending him the following text and wanted to get your guys opinion on if you think it would be a good or okay response..

"Okay, I understand.. To be honest Im a little hurt and embarrassed from putting myself in the spotlight like this even though me and you may not even have any problems and with a possible negative reaction from approaching you on top of having a switch kinda flipped after the ex-gf thing that I didnt even know about before.. But after somebody talked to me about something I got nervous/paranoid and took care of the possible problem anyway even if it might not even be there for us right now and by approaching you anyway because I want the best to happen for everyone (you and your gf now) regardless and rather everyone be on the safe side just in case even if theres nothing wrong. Im good/100% for sure I dont have anything right now if thats what you're worried about, and thought that maybe if I explained the situation to you that you would understand what Im talking about and feel more relieved too because then youd be sure that youre good also by taking the same steps i did just to be safe (which is why I wanted to explain in person). I just wanted to throw this all out there with this last text so that I don't leave you in the dust worrying or wondering about anything. Im sorry if I stressed you out, and I'll respect your wish for me to leave you alone"

? =/ sigh i never knew this could be so stressful... i literally felt the ball of stress in my stomach when we texted yesterday and i got those terrible responses, but i cant blame him. it sucks to hear. so what do u think of this last text..? bueno? or nooo

P.S. i wanted to meet with him in person and explain because basically, i have the medicine and can give it to him for treatment (the doc gave me any extra bottles for anyone that might be affected after me, which in this case, is possibly him...and hopefully not his gf or else i will shoot myself and need more advice from you guys -.- ) thanks guys

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Posted 05 January 2012 - 01:17 AM

I regret now ever opening my big mouth... i dont even think i gave it to him and even if i did... opening my mouth has only made things worse for myself and gotten nothing nowhere... im really sad and disappointed.

maybe i should still send that text anyway at least it might save my reputation just a little if he decides to put me on blast cause i mentioned being 100% clean right now

wtf is chlamydia.. is it bad


its an STD and yes it is bad but it is treatable and curable if you take the medication and wait a week after with no sexual intercourse. but he has a gf now and i dont know what they do.

i was thinking of meeting with him in person before to explain because basically, i have the medicine and can give it to him for treatment (the doc gave me any extra bottles for anyone that might be affected after me, which in this case, is possibly him...and hopefully not his gf or else i will shoot myself and need more advice from you guys -.- ) thanks guys. i have no idea if he may even be infected... and i might be putting myself on blast for nothing... the guy that i was with before that gave it to me didnt even stick it inside of my vagina but his genitals touched mine and he came on top of it... and then thats how i contracted it... i didnt know you could even get it that way but i guess its strangely possible?? how will this bob guy ever believe me if i do ever try to explain to him that i think im still a virgin even though i had this chlamydia scare.. i was thinking about not telling him that i was officially diagnosed with it but that i found out the guy i was with before had tested positive for it... and then explain the no intercourse but genital contact thing that happened and then say that i ingested the pills just to be safe and just got tested and am 100% clean... and that he can do the same thing as i did too.... but i dont know if this is going to work anymore. he doesnt even want to talk to me obviously. now all i can do is try to save my reputation :/ im sad and stressed at the trouble i caused myself. and what would i do if he slept with his now gf and gave it to her too? i really dont know anymore.

Edited by hippokathy88, 05 January 2012 - 03:41 AM.
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Posted 05 January 2012 - 03:50 PM

I am confused. You did not told him yet? Just text "you might have "clamydia" go to check yourself. Sorry".

Then stop thinking about him, you told, thats it. Things never end like we want, just leave it. Do not explain things, just leave it all.

Edited by LovelyLie, 05 January 2012 - 03:54 PM.


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Posted 05 January 2012 - 10:59 PM

Just leave him alone. He knows he has STD...you've said that he got the drift of it. You have done what you should have done. Now...it is his turn to own up to his part of being a responsible party to his girlfriend. Don't over step your boundary of what you have to do. Drop it...don't bring up this topic again unless he wants to know. Leave him alone. He has already text you and told you that he will ask you if he wants to know. Until then, just wait for him and don't bring up the topic. Keep your text and don't erase it. If he ever wants to put the blame on you, you have sufficient enough evidence to prove that you have warned him, and he was the one who choose to run away from the problem. Take care and good luck with your problem.

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Posted 26 January 2013 - 10:09 PM

WHY were you even attempting to have sex when there's no penetration? I think that's lame ... think about it, guy
gets all excited, gets a fuckin' boner ... and he didn't even slip it in!!!!!! lol it's laughable ... it's actually sad, actually

I would at least want to know I actually got it in there and felt her in there ... or it "doesn't seem like real sex to me"

Other than maybe going down on her ... but that's not even penetration itself. I would just be curious to know what
she tastes and smells like down there ... and who knows, it might be good ... but I don't know

It's actually pretty funny ... he gets all excited and cums all over her before he even had a chance to go in ... sad

It's like "WHAT??? Got all worked up for that??? and it's over???" nah man nah ... it was already sad enough when my friends had escorts long ago but didn't even "go all the way" ... they didn't even get to f--- them

it was a little bl*wj*b and it was all over ... lol. and NO I was not involved ... I did NOT participate. I just knew what was
going on at the back ... and then later on when they need to call a taxi one of the girls was looking at me like "damn ...
I should of did you instead of him" ... and I actually sorta wished it, but I would of wanted to TOUCH her too


anyway ...


I know this is "an old thread" ... and NO I AM NOT the OP ... and NO I do not have STDs, or the C thing, whatever

(by the way I will refer to it as the C ... simply because I'm not sure how to spell it ... I've heard of it and know what it is,

although I don't know what all the symptoms are or anything about it in detail, I'm not like a doctor and haven't

researched it, etc. but I know what it is, in general, a STD ... don't we all hate that word?)

heck I never even had sex ... and yeah I'm a little embarrased to say ... but at least NO STDs

but just for the sake of theory and coming across the post (I didn't even know it was there ... haven't been on Dear AF in a while so I was reading a while back) ... this is how I would probably word it, or talk about it

"hi ... how are you doing? ... (and after some kind of brief response) ... okay I have something important to tell you.

Okay ... you know the sex we had last time? Well ... "I've been having some problems and went to the doctor ...

and the doctor said it was C ... and I think just to be on the safe side ... you should get it checked out. The doctor

gave me some medicine ... and gave me some extra medicine ... in case you may also need it ... or anyone else you

had sex with. and I took the medicine and it cured me, no more symptoms ... I'm good, I'm clean, no more symptons,

I'm good, I'm clean, it's okay (assuming that this is true) ... so I just think you should go to the doctor just to be sure, or

at least take the medicine to be on the safe side ... but before you do ... I just wanna know, have you had any

symptons? Like are you okay, or have you been having "problems" lately? "

wait for response

ask again: or maybe sometime ago?

So you can see I'm trying to be more direct here ... no beating around the bush. The fact is you have to tell them

something important, and hopefully before it's too late ... what you can't be blamed for, was that you didn't know he

was going to get back together with his ex. But I think as soon as you know these things, like about STDs or

whatever ... you should tell them as soon as possible. Other people's lives are the line ... and it would not be

fair and right to them to just leave them hanging and not know what's going on or what happened

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Posted 01 June 2013 - 09:11 PM

a guy that i was seeing gave me chlamydia... we both felt that he did not penetrate me but he jacked off close to me down there and then came/ejected real close to me down there... and he put it a little in my butt before then and next thing u know i get chlamydia in both areas... (eff my life). the problem is i was physically with another guy after him (this was BEFORE i found out otherwise i wouldve never touched anyone until i got myself treated forsure) and i think i may have given it to him too even though he didnt penetrate me but we did basically the same stuff that me and the first guy did...well after i found out i freaked out and texted him this:

me: hey Posted Image
[he doesnt respond for a day]
me: i was wondering if you are free this week to meet.. i kind of have something important to talk to you about it affects both me and you
[he doesnt respond]
me: can u please get back to me about it when u can
me: something unexpected happened n i really need to speak with you
him: i get off at 5 ill text you then thats why i havent wrote back
[a few hours later]
him: whats up what do you have to tell me?
me: im still in the middle of something right now but i can talk to you tomorrow
him: f*k well to be honest im trying to fix things with my ex i dont want to risk what i have with her you know like if its something crazy just let me know right now so i wont be waiting

now im getting cold feet.... i told him i was a virgin and how the EFF is he going to believe me now... rumors are going to spread and i really dont know what to do at this point. if he does have it and i dont say anything eventually hes going to find out anyway and he'll know its me. on the other hand he may not even have it at all and then i wouldve just shot myself in the foot by doing all this. i have the medication for it (the doctor gave me extra for any partners i may have had) and im trying to figure out some smart or creative way to handle this situation...cause i dug myself in a hole... and now i truly need help and advice. help !


i dont even know if i should tell my best friend this... i feel like this is something i should never tell anyone except only for my brother and the one guy that gave it to me ... but now that i opened my big mouth with guy #2 i dont know what to do.... i hope he didnt give it to his exgf... cause then even if i made him take the medicine shes gunna give it right back to him... F*k i just dont know what to do without branding myself as the std girl for life, once the news is out there'll be no taking it back and all my claims of being a virgin will be completely unbelievable anymore now i feel dirty even though there was no penetration and just touching of the genitals/sperm


GO TO THE DOCTOR
GET IT TEST!!!