Bro if you don't opt for a DNA test and she says you're the father, then you pay. Likewise, there are cases where men have been married for years and decided to do a paternity test and found out the child is not theirs. In those cases the men STILL have to pay child support because they are legally responsible for the child even if it's not theirs at that point.
And when did I say I expect to marry a virgin?
Agree fully with the latter part. It's unfair but true, even if the kid isn't yours, if your name is on the birth certificate, you're the daddy, and you pay child support even if you're wife and child go back to the guy that got her pregnant. However, I disagree with the first sentence. You're on the hook for child support if and only if you refuse to take a paternity test ordered by the courts, then you may be liable for child support. The court also needs to serve you with the papers in person. If they can't locate you, they can't serve you with the papers, and if you did not receive personal service for these papers, good luck with the paternity test. You either have two choices, move around other states living under an alias like so many dead beat dads or move out of the country. I have friends that did the latter as they had a choice between paying alimony (not child support), or go to jail. Their kids were well into adult hood and child support no longer applied.
I think who mjdibatt is describing are your average frustrated chump who has a job, not a lot of savings, abides the law yet doesn't know enough of it to protect himself. They want to be responsible dads, and just want a simple family. Unfortunately these are the victims of our legal system because they don't know the law well enough to protect themselves and they can't afford to have a team of matrimonial lawyers on speed dial. Too bad, so sad, but that's just how the legal system works in this stupid country.
Edited by teddyc, 25 January 2013 - 08:10 AM.